For many, surrogacy is more than a process—it’s a profound partnership built on trust, hope, and shared purpose. If you’re considering this path to parenthood, understanding how it works and what to expect is key to a smooth, supported journey. This guide covers everything intended parents need to know before beginning the surrogacy process.
What Is Surrogacy?
Surrogacy is an arrangement where a woman (the surrogate) carries and delivers a child for someone else (the intended parent or parents). It’s a deeply personal and legally structured process that allows people who can’t carry a pregnancy to still have a biological child.
There are two types:
- Gestational Surrogacy (most common today): The surrogate carries an embryo created through IVF, using eggs and sperm from the intended parents or donors. She is not genetically related to the baby.
- Traditional Surrogacy: The surrogate uses her own egg and is biologically connected to the child. This method is less commonly used due to legal and emotional complexities.
Who Are Intended Parents?
Intended parents come from all walks of life:
- Heterosexual couples facing infertility
- Same-sex couples wanting a biological connection to their child
- Single individuals ready for parenthood
- People with medical conditions preventing pregnancy
What unites them is a dream of building a family—and surrogacy makes that possible.
What Intended Parents Should Expect
1. Emotional Readiness
Surrogacy is a journey filled with highs and uncertainties. Be prepared for:
- Deep emotional moments
- Vulnerability and trust
- A shared bond with your surrogate
Working with a counselor or agency can help you navigate the emotional aspects.
2. Legal Protection
You’ll need:
- A surrogacy contract outlining rights, responsibilities, compensation, and more
- Legal assistance to secure parental rights before or after birth (depending on your state or country)
This legal structure ensures clarity and peace of mind for all involved.
3. Medical Process
- IVF is used to create and implant embryos
- You may need an egg and/or sperm donor
- The surrogate undergoes regular prenatal care and monitoring
You’ll be involved at every step and often develop a strong relationship with your surrogate.
4. Financial Planning
Surrogacy can be costly. Expenses typically include:
- Agency and legal fees
- Surrogate compensation
- IVF and medical costs
- Surrogacy insurance (a must-have to protect both the surrogate and intended parents from unexpected medical bills)
Create a budget and consult with a surrogacy finance or insurance advisor.
Why Surrogacy Insurance Is Essential
Unexpected costs can arise during pregnancy or delivery. Surrogacy insurance provides coverage for:
- Prenatal care and delivery
- IVF procedures
- Surrogate complications or hospitalizations
It reduces financial risk and ensures your surrogate receives top-quality care without delay.
Building a Relationship with Your Surrogate
This is not just a transaction—it’s a partnership. Open communication, respect, and shared values often lead to lifelong bonds. Some intended parents stay close with their surrogate for years after birth.
The Birth and Beyond
When the baby arrives, legal documents will already be in place to transfer custody. This is often a profoundly emotional moment—the dream you’ve carried is now real.
Final Thoughts
Becoming a parent through surrogacy is a journey of heart, planning, and trust. While it may seem complex at first, you’re not alone. With the right support, legal guidance, and emotional preparation, surrogacy becomes not just a way to have a child—but a meaningful story you’ll cherish forever.
Ready to take the next step? Speak with a surrogacy professional and begin your journey toward carrying your dream into reality.
